Relocation the emotional stress
Relocation can be very stressful. Yesterday I was showing my clients home to a couple who is moving here in the next few months. Their agent had worked very hard to have a nice day of showings, with homes that "fit" their needs.
One of the things for sure is they wanted to be in East Grand Rapids. "He" is moving back..............he has lived here before and is very excited about moving back.
They are moving here from a large city, and I assume this is where she is from.
They had 7 homes to tour, mine being the 7th..................(they had a few hours break between the first 6 and mine). She never came to the showing, she stayed in the hotel..................very upset about the move. EGR is not what she is used to. She does not want to move.
I imagine this last trip to find a home to buy was pretty much of a bust for them and the Realtor. Thats okay for the most part, sometimes you do not know what you want till you see it..............meaning if you did not know it was an option you did not know to ask for it.......................so I always say it takes as long as it takes!
I have relocated all of my life................moving to a place where I have no friends or family. I relocate well! However I will admit it is easier when you have kids.....................you meet people faster and your involvement in the community comes easier.
When you relocate to a place that is unknown to you and you do not have children getting involved in the social aspect is a little harder. That is why finding the right Realtor is important to the move! Many may say they are qualified because they took a class. However understanding the needs of a relocation client is very important. It is NOT just buying a home.
When my husband and I relocate we take these steps to assure (as much as possible) a successful move.
1. Who ever is getting the job transfer interviews for the job. Make sure you like the company. Pay and benefits could be outstanding, however if you do not like the people that work there - eventually those things will not matter and you will look somewhere else.
2. Before excepting the job, take a trip to the new location.................if children are involved, do not tell them yet. You have not made the decision to move yet, no need to get every one excited till the decision has been made.
3. When you go to check out the area...................Do not do this by yourself. Involve a Realtor or someone from the company who can show you around. And not like a tourist.......................It is great to get a few homes to look at while there the 1st time, in several different area's....................so you can see the norm of the different area's to kinda of narrow down the area's you like. This will allow you to concentrate on certain area's that you like when you look for a home seriously.
4. Consider renting for at least 6 months in the area you like to make sure this is the purchase you want to make. No matter how much research you do nothing seems the same 6 months later...................the job and the area included.................make sure you love everything as much as you did when you first started!
5. If not renting 1st, make a list of what you are looking for in a neighborhood................schools, shopping, land, easy highway access. Also what you are looking for in a home. A 3 part list..............A. Must haves in a home B. Would like to have in a home C. Must not have in a home. If you could make this list as complete as possible this will help your Realtor to pick the right homes for you to look at and make your trip worth wild.
6. What are your outside interest? What are your or your families hobbies? Get a few names and numbers of some local residents that have the same interest as you and connect. Let the locals tell you about the area...IE: My son is a great hockey player........we need a to know about the hockey teams in the area. What ever it is you do that makes your life complete...............make sure the new area offers these things as well.
7. You decided to move and want to tell the kids..................if teenagers are involved, make sure you have material about the area with their interest. In my experience (personal and professional) this age is the hardest to move. They are leaving their friends. Assure them they can get involved in the same activities in the new area. Younger kids really do not understand what is happening. There is a god book out by The Berenstain Bears about moving.
8. After you have done your homework and have decided to make the move, find out what other services are available to you to make the move smoother:
A. Move planner? We have a local service here who coordinates the physical move for you. They connect with the movers, make sure they arrive on time, make the floor plan in the new house and meet the movers at the new home to make sure the unpacking is taken care of.
B. Local storage area
C. Job resources for your spouse
So yes, moving can be stressful but if done right it can be fun and very successful.
One of the things for sure is they wanted to be in East Grand Rapids. "He" is moving back..............he has lived here before and is very excited about moving back.
They are moving here from a large city, and I assume this is where she is from.
They had 7 homes to tour, mine being the 7th..................(they had a few hours break between the first 6 and mine). She never came to the showing, she stayed in the hotel..................very upset about the move. EGR is not what she is used to. She does not want to move.
I imagine this last trip to find a home to buy was pretty much of a bust for them and the Realtor. Thats okay for the most part, sometimes you do not know what you want till you see it..............meaning if you did not know it was an option you did not know to ask for it.......................so I always say it takes as long as it takes!
I have relocated all of my life................moving to a place where I have no friends or family. I relocate well! However I will admit it is easier when you have kids.....................you meet people faster and your involvement in the community comes easier.
When you relocate to a place that is unknown to you and you do not have children getting involved in the social aspect is a little harder. That is why finding the right Realtor is important to the move! Many may say they are qualified because they took a class. However understanding the needs of a relocation client is very important. It is NOT just buying a home.
When my husband and I relocate we take these steps to assure (as much as possible) a successful move.
1. Who ever is getting the job transfer interviews for the job. Make sure you like the company. Pay and benefits could be outstanding, however if you do not like the people that work there - eventually those things will not matter and you will look somewhere else.
2. Before excepting the job, take a trip to the new location.................if children are involved, do not tell them yet. You have not made the decision to move yet, no need to get every one excited till the decision has been made.
3. When you go to check out the area...................Do not do this by yourself. Involve a Realtor or someone from the company who can show you around. And not like a tourist.......................It is great to get a few homes to look at while there the 1st time, in several different area's....................so you can see the norm of the different area's to kinda of narrow down the area's you like. This will allow you to concentrate on certain area's that you like when you look for a home seriously.
4. Consider renting for at least 6 months in the area you like to make sure this is the purchase you want to make. No matter how much research you do nothing seems the same 6 months later...................the job and the area included.................make sure you love everything as much as you did when you first started!
5. If not renting 1st, make a list of what you are looking for in a neighborhood................schools, shopping, land, easy highway access. Also what you are looking for in a home. A 3 part list..............A. Must haves in a home B. Would like to have in a home C. Must not have in a home. If you could make this list as complete as possible this will help your Realtor to pick the right homes for you to look at and make your trip worth wild.
6. What are your outside interest? What are your or your families hobbies? Get a few names and numbers of some local residents that have the same interest as you and connect. Let the locals tell you about the area...IE: My son is a great hockey player........we need a to know about the hockey teams in the area. What ever it is you do that makes your life complete...............make sure the new area offers these things as well.
7. You decided to move and want to tell the kids..................if teenagers are involved, make sure you have material about the area with their interest. In my experience (personal and professional) this age is the hardest to move. They are leaving their friends. Assure them they can get involved in the same activities in the new area. Younger kids really do not understand what is happening. There is a god book out by The Berenstain Bears about moving.
8. After you have done your homework and have decided to make the move, find out what other services are available to you to make the move smoother:
A. Move planner? We have a local service here who coordinates the physical move for you. They connect with the movers, make sure they arrive on time, make the floor plan in the new house and meet the movers at the new home to make sure the unpacking is taken care of.
B. Local storage area
C. Job resources for your spouse
So yes, moving can be stressful but if done right it can be fun and very successful.
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